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The Danger of Comparison

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There’s danger in comparison.

For weeks I’ve pondered this idea. I’ve thought about the words I would write, the verses I would use, and the advice I would give to you about this simple concept that can be so difficult to grasp. For weeks I’ve focused on all that I wanted to say to you, when I’m the one that’s needed to hear it the most. 

For many of us, the battle is between our ears. We entertain thoughts that cause us to think of ourselves as less than and we compare our lives, our accomplishments, and our relationships to those around us. We stand on the battleground of our mind ready to fight, but we do so with a measuring stick instead of the sword of the Spirit. 

One of the most well known stories in the Bible, the story of Cain and Abel, not only tells a story of envy, jealousy, and resentment, but reminds us of the consequence of falling into the comparison trap. Cain, the firstborn of Adam and Eve, shook his fist at God in frustration when he began comparing his efforts to his younger brother. He envied Abel and blamed God for not giving him what he thought he wanted and needed, which led to his own destruction and separation from God. (Genesis 4:1-16)

Do you find yourself falling into the same trap of envy, jealousy, and comparison? 

“I wish I looked like her.”

“Their relationship is so much better than mine.”

“I wish I had someone love me like that.”

“They’re so much farther in life than I am.”

“I’ll never be able to do that.”

“If only I had ____ like ____.”

Many of us go through life letting these thoughts inhabit our mind, not fully understanding the weight they truly carry. The problem with letting these thoughts camp where they don’t belong is that through them we begin to define ourselves. Rather than reminding ourselves we are fearfully and wonderfully made, we live at the mercy of our insecurities and believe because we’re not ‘them’ or don’t have that, we’ll never be enough. 

Living a life of comparison, as Paul said, is living without understanding. (2 Corinthians 10:12) When we choose to let our insecurities, envy, and resentment take hold and define who we are, we dishonor our Heavenly Father by our self-pity. When we fix our eyes on ourselves and what we do or don’t have, we can easily lose sight of God and of others. Celebrating our friends and their victories will become more difficult because our attention will be soaked up with jealousy, and our harmony with those around us will be swept away by thoughts and negative feelings. 

Friend, you are His chosen treasure (1 Peter 2:9) and He wants to use you just the way you are. He has plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. (Jeremiah 29:11) His love for you is so great, that He sent His Son to die and give Himself for you. (Galatians 2:20) Who are we to question who the Creator of the universe has made us to be? 

The fact of the matter is, we will ever be enough. We’re flawed creatures in need of a Savior, and if we are going to compare, we must compare ourselves properly. Not against one another, but toward Christlike imitation and fear of God. 

With love, Miranda 

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The Why

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As I  sit down at the keyboard in an attempt to bring a message for the season you may be walking through, I find myself writing about seasons I am going through as well. As I write these words I feel the Lord speaking to me as well as to you. I just want you, the reader, to know, “I have been there; I AM there.”

 why

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  1. for what reason or purpose.
    "why did he do it?"

In life we go through things that leave us scratching our heads and asking ourselves, “Why?”  It might be lost jobs, relationships, friends and even family. We walk through seasons of uncertainty and sorrow and we have a hard time understanding exactly the reason for it all. We throw pity parties and we say, “Woe is me.” Sometimes we even dare to forget everything good in our lives. Sometimes I find myself wondering, “Why,” and you may find yourself in similar situations. 

Let’s take a look at the above example of, “why,” used in a sentence. “Why did He do it?” What a heavy question. Why did Jesus die on the cross for us? Why did God let His only son die for the sin of the world? John 3:16 gives us a life-giving answer: For God so loved the world, that he gave His only Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life.” The most selfless act in history was done for every generation of people to come, some of which will never believe in the amazing God we serve, all because of the unconditional, never-ending love of God. 

Now let’s go back to the beginning, “why?” It’s easy to ask but the short and simple answer is, “for the glory of God.” He is showing you things, removing people from your life, walking you through seasons that are not so comfortable because He loves you, He wants to know you more and in the end it will bring glory to our Mighty King who deserves it all. So a couple of perspective changers for the next time you find yourself in a less than optimal situation. Instead of asking, “Why?” ask, “What?”

“What are you teaching me, Lord?”

“What do I need to let go of God for your glory?”

“What are you trying to use me for?”

It sounds easy, perfectly placed on a neatly typed page but it is not a simple task. We are selfish by nature so if you struggle with this, it is going to take some practice. This life is more intricate than just what we see; God is working! So maybe it’s time to shift your focus and broaden your perspective.

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